Categories Adoption VOTY I Am Not a Unicorn Post author By Jenna Post date April 6, 2011 14 Comments on I Am Not a Unicorn This content has restricted access, please type the password below and get access. Share this:Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window)Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window)Click to email this to a friend (Opens in new window)MoreClick to share on Pocket (Opens in new window)Click to share on Tumblr (Opens in new window)Click to share on Reddit (Opens in new window)Click to print (Opens in new window) Tags Posts from The Chronicles of Munchkin Land, Voices of the Year ← Wordless Wednesday: Again With the Teeth → State of the ‘Stache: Five 14 replies on “I Am Not a Unicorn” I love you that is all. It funny & sad how society has this idea of how birth parents must feel, it’s such a stereotype. I have to say, I think we are all unicorns, all people are unicorns. People are ‘amazed’ that I fly to the other side of the country so my daughter can see her firstfather, call me a unicorn. Hardly! I just do the best I can, and life is full of twists & turns, we deal with them all the best we can. Thanks for this post- I really enjoyed it – we are all real that’s for sure! The experiences are real, and as you note, the pain is also real! Hey lady, I incorporated this tender post into my post about how we are treated in the course of online discussions—- you might or might not like my blog I’m a bit angrier than you but I’m a lot nicer than I come accross LOL http://austinholistic.blogspot.com/2011/05/unicorn-of-adoption-trauma.html Obvioiusly if you don’t like the quoting let me know! Thank you so much for this post. My husband is an adoptee who has been in reunion for about 15 months. This roller coaster ride has prompted me to do lots and lots of reading on blogs from all sides of the triad. It’s refreshing to read someone put his thoughts (from the other side of the triad) into words so eloquently. Just because he feels that his life story has turned out to be a good one (note I did not say perfect) that he has enjoyed thus far, and just because he doesn’t resent that he’s adopted or feel the primal would that other adoptees feel does not make him a “rainbow farter”. Thank you for saying exactly how you feel without a sugar coating while still saying it with tact and class. I can feel your sweet soul from here!!! LOVE! So deserving of the VOTY honor! :) Wow, thank you for this amazing post. I feel like I’m constantly standing up for and battling these negative thoughts of my son’s b/m. I hate hate hate stereotypes and hate it for her that she has to deal with that. You are very deserving of the award! Congrats. I’m a new reader of your’s and can’t wait to read more :) so glad you found these words and shared them here. such an important post. xo Amazing! Thank you so much. I am a “waiting” potential adoptive parent who feels very strongly about the issues you address in your blog. We chose open adoption not because we felt it would necessarily lessen any sense of loss on the part of the birthparent or adoptee, but because it feels like the most honest path. Everybody in the triad is entitled to their own feelings, no matter what they are. We are all human. None of this; placing a child, adopting a child, being a child, parenting, hell, living, is easy. And none of us is anything more or less than human. This is a great post – I came via Tabulous I too wish I were a unicorn. A unicorn wouldn’t hurt the way I do today. Yesterday adoption was a beautiful thing today it just sucks. Nothing really changed between yesterday and today. I just feel my very real, ununicorn like grief today. I don’t want to put my brave face on today, but I do because I have a husband at work and three young boys at home to parent. Tonight my very compassionate husband will come home, see the house is fairly messy, the dishes are only part way done but the kids are still alive and healthy, then send me to bed. I know he will do this because that is what he’s been doing a couple of days a month for the last year as I’ve dealt with my grief. I placed over 11 years ago and it still hurts. Some days worse than others. Today was a day that really hurt and I too wish I was a unicorn. […] what it is. I accept that the world doesn’t know what to do with me and that writers think I’m some unicorn that doesn’t exist. But I think that the writers are wrong and are selling the viewing public short by writing the […] I think you sound pretty amazing. Thanks for this post. […] I Am Not a Unicorn — My favorite post of the year, which was also a nominee for BlogHer’s Voices of the […] Leave a Reply Cancel replyYour email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Name * Email * Website Notify me of follow-up comments by email. Notify me of new posts by email.