Learning to Parent Two

All Three of UsThe boys teach me things everyday. And I like to think I’m learning well. Slowly, but well.

I will admit that I was in a bit of shock after LittleBrother came home. People had said that it would be hard but I figured that I could handle it. And it’s not that I couldn’t handle it. It’s just that whole transition period, where everything is thrown together all at once, was kind of, well, excruciating. I was learning to breastfeed. BigBrother was learning that well-timed tantrums could make me cry. We were exhausted. And those fluctuating hormones sure didn’t help. Did I mention that all of this happened during the holidays?

After some time passed, including a weekend in which my parents kidnapped BigBrother, things started to calm down. Breastfeeding started to come a bit more naturally and, thus, easier. BigBrother learned about the Naughty Chair. Sleep started to come in longer chunks of time. And, you know, the hormonal fluctuation started to even out. Oh, and thank goodness, the holidays got themselves over and done with allowing us to breathe once again.

I’ve started to find a groove. Not a routine, mind you, because that doesn’t happen up in here. But a groove. I’m able to figure out when LittleBrother is going to sleep long enough for me to shower. I’ve managed to take both boys out of the house without panicking (too much) or failing completely and aborting whatever mission we were set to accomplish. My hair, mind you, doesn’t always look great when I arrive at my destination but I’m just proud that I can make it anywhere, crazy hair or not.

I’m also learning that time spent with BigBrother is quite important right now. He hasn’t shown any jealousy towards LittleBrother. In fact, he enjoys giving him kisses, talking to him when he is in the bouncy seat and gets quite worried when LittleBrother isn’t in the room with us at any given time. But BigBrother needs some one-on-one time. He’s gotten quite a bit from FireDad while I’ve been busy breastfeeding LittleBrother, but I wanted to make sure he was getting some much-needed Mama-time, too.

And so we had some alone time on Saturday morning. Really, I had to run some errands. And I figured I would make the most of it. LittleBrother stayed with FireDad and BigBrother and I hit the town. In a low key fashion, of course. The whole time he was promised “something special” if he was “nice, held Mommy’s hand and didn’t throw fits.” We repeated this in the car, over and over and over, and, much to my delight, he was nice, held my hand and didn’t throw any fits. And so, the kid got his hair cut. Yes, BigBrother likes getting his hair cut. Whatever floats his boat.

Today’s “something special?” We took advantage of the seventy degree weather and went to the park. (The picture above.) All three of us. (FireDad is working.) I was panicked, really, that I wouldn’t be able to manage both of them at the playground. But, thanks to the wonders of babywearing, I was able to be mobile, help BigBrother out when necessary, push him on the swings and just enjoy the weather with a baby strapped to my chest. I felt pleased with myself. I had taken them both out. BigBrother got some special time with Mommy (and used up a lot of energy which resulted in a no-fuss naptime) and LittleBrother was involved, too. Tomorrow I think we’ll bake cookies.

I’m getting the hang of it. Even if my hair is awful.

13 replies on “Learning to Parent Two”

It’s good to read blogs like yours. Gives me hope for the future when ever I have another, hopefully sooner rather than later, and I have to learn how to juggle two at a time;)

Both of your boys are SO adorable:) You are so blessed!

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That’s awesome!!

Too funny — Nate likes getting his hair cut too. In fact, I took that “privilege” away the other weekend, and you would have thought I was beating the kid. Sheesh! Then this past weekend he asked very meekly if he could go to Kuts for Kids to get a haircut and of course I had been thinking the same thing. He was THRILLED!!

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Let me just say one thing: Damn, woman, you look good. Seriously–getting an occasional shower when you’ve got a newborn and a Toddler is not small feat. Having your hair all flippy and CUTE is nothing short of a miracle!

This weather is kind of nice. But it’s going to make the real January weather that is going to show up eventually hurt all that much more.

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(In rely to comment on my blog) 50 books WITH cable AND two young children in the house? *shakes head* How much sleep are you planning to get, FireMom?

But I think you can do it! Good luck and we’ll try to keep you on track. I realized I also need to be reading more. I ordered one of the books on your to-read list from the library as well as a few others to get me going more.

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My four year old enjoys the same special treat! There’s nothing like a haircut that isn’t from me. Also, many congratulations on getting out and about…I experienced many aborted missions in my day.

Kudos to you for allowing yourself the time to adjust, and being ok with the new mommy unperfectness that comes with being with two. It is hard and somedays, you forget underwear or a hair brushing – but getting out, feeling the wind in your face and watching giggles and running – is priceless and worth more than anything else.

But then again – it seems you know that already ;)

You’re doing a great job mom!

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