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Gloves, Judgment and Tears

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You’ll have to tell me where you were today. I took Elle to Kennedy’s, the pharmacy, the scrapbook shop while she was wearing her new pajamas, sans gloves, sans underwear and refusing to zip her coat up :) The lady would have a field day with me!

Oh I know the sting of that sing-songy caring judgment. On the coldest of cold days my crew is out w/o their jackets zipped and maybe or maybe not gloves. My 5yo gets to walk down the block from the bus stop by herself w/ me watching and that’s just the tip of my “things people might judge even when it’s none of their business” iceberg. We got an early lunch at the food court today and one of the employees was all “they must have had a light breakfast” Huh?

*hugs* you rock. especially at the end of this long solo-gig marathon.
.-= Heather´s last blog ..a cold day =-.

That is so stinky. I often find that strangers say really stupid things just because they can’t think of anything not-stupid to say, particularly if they’re the kind of people who feel they must make conversation all day, such as talkative, nosy cashiers. And I’ve been worried about this same issue lately, b/c our 2-year-old hasn’t been wanting to wear his jacket in this freezing weather. Ugh. Over time, we’ve gotten comments from strangers about his big size, his bedtime, his noise levels, etc. There’s only so much you can do to control another human being, you know, and I always wonder if they really want me to go there. And if they hear what’s coming out of their mouths!

I think you did stand up for yourself by pointing out the facts and showing her they were in fact in his pocket all along (who wears gloves inside, anyway?). And, of course, you got to vent about it here, so that’s all good!
.-= Lauren @ Hobo Mama´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday: Babywearing in Peru =-.

ZOMG! Love the hat!!!
Seriously why would anyone wear gloves INSIDE a store. What a stupid thing to say. If you were outside and his hands were bright red, well than maybe a tactful inquiry might be in order. People are strange!!

I understand how you feel. I’m touchy about how people judge my parenting in public, too. I can admit I’ve gone to the car and cried more than once.

And yeah – she got judgy over gloves? Who doesn’t take their kids gloves off when they’re inside? Had you left them on, she probably would have judged you for overheating your child.

(That pic – LB looks SO MUCH like BB!)
.-= Christina´s last blog ..Dear Santa, I Want A New Computer =-.

How can anybody look at the smile on that kiddo and not see that you must be the most awesome mom ever??
The lady needs her brain checked.

I remember when the girls were younger I would get those looks and statements from strangers. It would always put me in defensive mode.

I remember being really irked when they would speak directly to the girls like I wasn’t even there.

Don’t worry about busybodies and their comments….altho I know this is so much easier said than done.

.-= Domestic Extraordinaire´s last blog ..And then you turned fifteen =-.

I am sure you are a fantastic mother, and people just don’t think when they say things like that. I would say “don’t let it get to you” but I am sure I’ll be the exact same way when I have kids. I’m the same way when people act like they’re questioning my abilities as a teacher.

People should just step off and mind their own business. Rawr.
.-= Ari´s last blog ..A perfect day for presents… and pictures. =-.

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